In order to become the person you want to become you need to start acting like that person TODAY. Start doing those things that person does.
It will not just happen on it it's own.
If you want to be someone who is kind and giving and who is serving those around her,
knock on that neighbor's door ... write that thank you card to someone who helped you.
If you want to have your house in order and home cooked meals with the family each night make a plan for it and start heading in that direction.
You won't become that person overnight, but you will become that person as you start to develop those habits and put into practice that perfect picture you have in mind.
My women-I-want-to-be list:
2. intuitive and selfless
4. make the best homemade bread - or at least can make a good loaf once in a while and
8. God fearing
12. laughs before cries (hard hard hard for me)